Relationship Coach

Relationship Coach

If you are dealing with challenging situations in your love life and relationship, it doesn’t have to be this way.

Relationships can be complicated and difficult. If you are struggling to build a solid relationship or wondering if you should stay or leave, I help you mindfully navigate your love life.

Wishing and hoping your partner will change, or your relationship will be better on its own is wishful thinking. Let’s explore if the relationship can be mended or if you are in a relationship that is not what you want for the long term.

ARE YOU…

  • Confused about whether you should stay or end the relationship
  • Trapped in a toxic relationship
  • Dealing with co-dependent patterns
  • Caught in a negative communication cycle causing non-stop arguments
  • Considering a breakup or divorce
  • Feel ignored and invisible
  • Feeling lonely, unheard, and unsupported in your relationship
  • Caught up in emotional baggage from past relationships and want to let it go
  • Needing more trust with your partner and are unsure how to forgive any hurt

You Are Worthy of Love

When you set a vision for what you want, you can then take clear action to go for it! This is where my coaching comes in…

I guide you to make long-awaited changes in your love life and relationships. When you know your non-negotiable values, you are able to set boundaries and limits and make decisions from a place of confidence rather than fear or what you think is expected of you.

My relationship coaching is a blend of science, practical tools and intuitive wisdom. Creating a map of you and understanding where you might be sabotaging your happiness is the first step towards change.

If you are serious about improving your existing relationship or figuring out if it’s time to leave, let’s talk.

Discover your patterns, boundaries and critical communication skills

Happy relationships can be the most amazing experiences in the world, but growing love and navigating communication is not something we are taught in school, and many people did not have the role models to reference. I believe in science and data, which I bring into our work together.

Discovering your inner critics, your boundaries, or lack of boundaries plus practicing how to talk to each other in a way that reduces arguments is essential in a healthy long-term relationship.

Understand your Adult Attachment Style

Attachment theory, developed by Bowlby and Ainsworth found that the nature in which infants get their needs met by their parents significantly contributes to their “attachment strategy” throughout their lives.

Your attachment style can very well explain why your relationships fail or succeed, who you are attracted to and why you experience certain emotions when meeting a new partner. The good news is that your attachment style can change over time — although it’s slow and difficult.

The four adult attachment styles are:
Secure, Avoidant, Anxious and Disorganized.

There are variations within that including anxious-avoider and other combinations. Uncovering your style and the style of the people in your current or previous relationships can be mind-blowing!

Understand Your Core Self-Defeating Beliefs

According to George Pratt and Peter Lambrou, there are seven core limiting “I am…” statements that almost all self-defeating beliefs originate from and they are:

  • I am not safe.
  • I am worthless.
  • I am powerless.
  • I am not loveable.
  • I cannot trust others.
  • I am bad.
  • I am alone.

Many of these thoughts are the voice of your inner critic…

Let me introduce…The Saboteur; those inner critics that cause self-doubt and create lots of noise in your mind.

From the time you were a child, you were being inundated with ideas and myths about success and failure. These beliefs were likely soaked in by your subconscious like a sponge.

As a result, you cognitively carry negative self-beliefs and self-talk around with you. They can begin as an “innocent” comment someone said but get burrowed in your mind and become entangled in your identity.

The first step to self-confidence and an extraordinary life is having a deep understanding of who you are and what you stand for.

Identify problematic patterns

Dr. Gottman outlines the essential elements of a healthy relationship. Being able to identify the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt and Stonewalling. 

Being able to identify the Four Horsemen in your conflict discussions is a necessary first step to eliminating them and replacing them with healthy, productive communication patterns. If you find that you and your partner stuck in these patterns. I’m your coach.

My mission is to help you untangle your inner saboteurs from your inner wisdom and uncover the hindrances that keep you from fully awakening to your highest potential and being in a safe, loving and healthy relationship.

The combination of my coaching expertise and life experience, allows me to give you the knowledge and tools to lead with confidence, rather than fear.

If you’re struggling, chances are that you are not honoring your core values. My one-on-one coaching will help you get clear on your core values and beliefs. When you know your non-negotiable values, you are able to set boundaries and decisions from a place of strength and your inner wisdom.

Learning about your core personality traits and how you show up in the world is critical to having a positive relationship.

Part of having healthy relationships is having the confidence to show up as your true self and along with understanding where you might be sabotaging your happiness.

Find Your Voice

Many people live their lives feeling invisible, unheard and unseen. Some people are naturally able to let themselves be seen and heard, and for others, it’s a much harder task.

To discover what your soul really wants, you have to find your voice.

Our voice is our essence and it takes courage to allow ourselves to be seen. Having a clear purpose is the primary step to finding your voice. The more clear your purpose is, the stronger your voice is.

And… the wonderful outcome of having a clear voice is that not only are you empowered and feel so much more confident, you also begin to attract into your life the resources and people that are aligned with your highest good.

  • Tap into your intuition
  • Feel confident and worthy
  • Find your voice
  • Understand your inner critics and how they show up
  • Build resilience
  • Create boundaries

I help you sort out the inner critics from your inner allies and unblock your confidence, clarity and self-esteem.

 

“I really appreciated your help! You listened well, asked useful questions, hooked me up with highly relevant resources, offered helpful feedback and personal experience, and led me through some super visualizations. In addition, I felt comfortable with and enjoyed your presence, your way of being.”

—Christine, Arizona